If you’ve ever had a time in your life when you’ve felt like giving up, you’re not alone. I’d venture that many, if not most of us, have reached points when we’ve wanted to close the door on a relationship, a longtime goal, a time-consuming project, a career move, or some other aspect of our life for which we simply no longer have the physical energy or mental stamina.
Whether or not we follow through, reaching this stage can be a wake-up call to our senses and our psyche. It can force us to reexamine what we value and what we’re made of, leaving us exhilarated and newly energized or drained and depleted.
Though such choices can be difficult and even painful, they also shape us and our lives in ways that few other experiences can. If we choose to keep going, we gain all that comes from persevering and seeing our aim through to the end. If we choose the opposite, we risk losing out on all the rewards our endeavor may have yielded.
This article originally appeared on No Sidebar.
This past November as I was driving home, I came to a familiar intersection where a homeless woman stood with a sign asking for help. I’d seen her numerous times before, but had always stopped short of giving. On this instance, I reached into my wallet and gave her my spare change, mostly pennies, amounting to no more than 15 cents.
As I handed it to her and double checked my car’s various compartments, I apologized that I didn’t have more to give. Instead of disappointment or agitation, she expressed deepfelt gratitude, and thanked me profusely. It didn’t matter whether it was a few pennies or a few dollars, she said. Every little bit helped.
As the first month of the new year nears its end, I find myself thinking about its passage and how I’ve spent it. I think about whom I’ve seen or reached out to and where I’ve been. In some ways, I’ve fallen short of my self-expectations, and in others, I’ve surprised myself with what I’ve been able to accomplish in a few short weeks, sometimes in a single day.
Quality over quantity
I’ve always favored quality over quantity: in my relationships, in what I consume, and in nearly everything I set out to do. But one area that remains a challenge is how I spend my time. Where structure fails, distraction takes root; along with idleness and envy, impatience and anticipation.
If we spent our free time reading a few chapters of a new book or going for a run, instead of being at the mercy of each new notification or an excessive list of to-dos, would we feel like our days belonged to us again?
Happy 2019! It’s a new year, ripe with potential to become better versions of ourselves and create the lives that we desire. What’s on your 2019 to-do list? Whether you made a dozen resolutions or none at all, it’s never too late (or too early) to start soaking in your own goodness, and letting in some extra light.
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