Go ahead, you deserve it
How many times have you heard the phrase, “Go ahead, you deserve it”? Maybe after an especially satisfying workout, you tell yourself that you deserve a milkshake, or after a long day of work, that you deserve to put your feet up. Maybe you’re hard on yourself because you believe you deserve to punish yourself for a mistake you made weeks ago and still regret.
So much of how we treat ourselves and interpret our lives’ events can be caught up in what we think we do and don’t deserve. Unfortunately, our experiences don’t always align with these elementary notions of fairness or worthiness.
There’s a beautiful practice I want to introduce today: writing yourself a letter. I learned about it a few years ago and it’s stuck with me ever since. If it sounds silly or strange, I encourage you to keep reading. You don’t have to be an eloquent wordsmith or an experienced writer. All you need is a little motivation, a blank slate, and an open mind.
This article originally appeared on No Sidebar.
Have you ever tried to form a new habit or set a goal for yourself only to lose motivation and give up midway through? Or you might even try to implement several new habits at once and after a successful first few weeks, gradually begin to wane in your progress.
New habits are hard to form. Even the best intentions can be swept away by busy schedules, exhaustion, and overwhelm. Diet and exercise fads come and go, novel mindfulness trends intrigue us, and fresh challenges excite us; but despite our most valiant efforts, we slowly slip back into our old ways.
Within each and every one of us, there is a place of inner stillness from which our thoughts and dreams arise. It’s hard to pinpoint, easily escaping our limited grasp. How do you find this place within yourself? There are many reasons why we may fail to recognize this dwelling space deep inside: anger or discord, shame or embarrassment, worry or fear.
Yet it exists within all of us, and when we access it, we are free from the constraints of that which weighs us down. You may know it as quiet mind or relaxed awareness. It is a place of possibility and ease, contentment and security.