The Unclaimed Joy of Waiting

The batter hit the oil-lined pan and I waited, spatula in hand, for tiny bubbles to form. The thought of pancakes had lured me out of bed, tired and hungry. Hoping to hurry the process along, I raised the temperature on the stove eager to kick-start my day.

“When did we become so impatient?” I found myself wondering. There was no real sense of urgency, only my own desire to occupy the seconds as they ticked by rather than lean into the stillness they invited.

How often do we resist the urge to simply be, or fail to notice such opportunities altogether? We grow restless waiting in line, sitting in traffic, or slogging through Thursday with our sights set on Friday.

No matter how much we prioritize, delegate, or simplify, much of our lives will be spent in eager anticipation of what’s next. But the passing days are not defined by the arrival of each new destination or accomplishment they bring, however significant or mundane it may be.

When we become so focused on getting from point A to point B, we neglect the abundant potential that lies in between. A few moments of silence can provide a morning’s worth of restoration. A traffic jam can be the perfect excuse to catch up on an audiobook. A crowded waiting room can be an opportunity to unplug and bury yourself in conversation. A tedious task can invite creativity and collaboration.

In our fast-paced society, time waiting has become synonymous with time wasted. We’ve become so accustomed to its negative connotations that we struggle to see that its value is dependent not on how we define it but on how we spend it.

Imagine if you didn’t live in dread of long lines or morning commutes, but simply lived. Imagine if you weren’t just a weekend warrior, but a Monday through Wednesday warrior. Imagine if you committed not only to your daily calendar, but to 10 minutes of daily solitude.

Seek joy in waiting. Challenge yourself to slow down and savor. As you make breakfast, make peace with the minutes left unfilled. As you go about your day, step out of impatience and into presence.

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Starve the Monster, Quench Your Soul

Have you ever mistaken being productive for taking care of yourself? When you should be relaxing with a good read, getting out for a run, catching up with a friend, or hitting the farmers’ market, you find yourself doing anything (and everything) else instead?

The bills need to be paid, dinner needs to be prepped, the dog needs a bath, and that pesky doorknob is loose again. So you hit snooze when your meditation alarm dings and postpone your morning workout, while silently berating yourself for not being in better shape. “I need to sign up for that 10K!” you think, adding it to your mental to-dos.

Soon the entire afternoon’s escaped you and your self-care’s suffered. When you finally crawl into bed at night, your mind races with all the things that need to get done tomorrow. Your one and only thought before drifting off to dreamland is, “I need a vacation.”

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100 Days of Self-Love Challenge

This month I’m excited to kick off my first ever 100 Days of Self-Love Challenge! The rules are simple: 100 days, 100 acts of self-love. From preparing a healthy meal for yourself to curling up with your favorite movie, anything counts. As long as you put a little love and light behind it.

Want to join? Click here to download your free template and start tracking your daily progress! If you need a jump-start, head on over to the Freebies page to download your free Self-Care Kit that includes 30 of my self-care secrets. And don’t forget to check out my Little Book of Self-Love for oodles of ideas on how you can start radiating more compassion and kindness for yourself and those around you.

Ready to get started? Follow along on Instagram for inspiration as I tally up my feel-good favorites.

Click to download! 100 Days of Self-Love Challenge

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If You’re Feeling Stuck, Look Inward

If you’ve ever had a time in your life when you’ve felt like giving up, you’re not alone. I’d venture that many, if not most of us, have reached points when we’ve wanted to close the door on a relationship, a longtime goal, a time-consuming project, a career move, or some other aspect of our life for which we simply no longer have the physical energy or mental stamina.

Whether or not we follow through, reaching this stage can be a wake-up call to our senses and our psyche. It can force us to reexamine what we value and what we’re made of, leaving us exhilarated and newly energized or drained and depleted.

Though such choices can be difficult and even painful, they also shape us and our lives in ways that few other experiences can. If we choose to keep going, we gain all that comes from persevering and seeing our aim through to the end. If we choose the opposite, we risk losing out on all the rewards our endeavor may have yielded.

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